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New idea and further planning.

So I’ve never really been a “handy man” type guy but I got the idea of making my own spreader bar, Miss is ok with the plan so before heading out to the cinema we took a trip down to a hardware store. Bought some wood which a very nice man happily cut up for us (it was 2.5m long so 3 80cm sections) got some eyelets that will fit our rope and some sand paper (no one wants splinters during their kink (well some might and thats fine but not us)).

Its all sat in the back of the car for the moment but I will be making the effort to get it sorted and perfected hopefully. Then once its all done I’m either thinking of staining the wood or painting it not sure yet. My plan in terms of the blog and this little project are to take pictures throughout and show progress and work, and likely after many mistakes what I learnt with a few tips to others that want to make their own. In all I think we had a rather nice day with everything, Miss has been amorous today so we’ve both been satisfied a few times and overall She’s also happy for me to be writing my thoughts and stuff down.

Again if you have any questions etc. please don’t hesitate to contact or comment.


Play Ideas

Last but not least, if you want any other lists adding or have any suggestions for the existing lists please drop me a message.

  • Make him strip naked while You keep Your clothes on.
  • You will perform oral sex upon demand.
  • You may not orgasm without permission.
  • You will do what you are told in the bedroom.
  • Go to nude beach
  • Put a butt plug in his ass. Or get out the strap-on.
  • Have him kneel before You and kiss Your feet.
  • Have him address You as a name of your choosing.
  • Have him kiss Your ass…make him beg to kiss Your ass.
  • You will strip naked whenever told to do so.
  • Tie his hands and have him undress You with his mouth/teeth.
  • Don’t let him masturbate or touch his cock without Your permission at any time.
  • Tie his hands behind his back. Have him kneel with knees spread naked in front of You while You read or watch TV, occasionally nudging his balls or penis with Your shoes.
  • She conducts frequent, frustrating tease and denial sessions that are agony for him and fun for Her. An ice-pack is then applied to his dick so She can immediately get him back in his male chastity device.
  • Either order him to stay erect, or don’t give him permission to have a hard on… either way, punish him if he fails!
  • Use some strong string (kite string), tie a slip noose in the end and tighten it around the head of the penis, tug on it, pull it shake it, lead him with it, whatever You please.
  • Making me do things and monitoring while I do them, and applying punishment for her amusement or to correct me
  • Me being in chastity at work and you sending me sexy messages/pictures
  • Having you play with my ass while in chastity
  • Tied down and being left/teased/used as she wishes
  • Told to do housework naked/with plug/chaste
  • Licking her and being spanked for doing it incorrectly
  • Making me fuck her with a strapon or with a cock gag
  • You decide on the length of the lock up.
  • You get to decide how he cums and how you have sex.
  • Your owner is entitled to tease you about your lack of ability to attain an erection or gain any satisfaction. She has taken it away from you and wants to enjoy it. She can get satisfaction whenever she wants: you can’t. Tough. She probably finds that amusing.
  • Show Your slave Your panty crotch, make him smell it, but no touching without permission.
  • Tie Your slave spread eagle to the bed and tease him for hours. Make sure he has a big hard on, but once he does only touch it when he needs just a little more encouragement, don’t let him cum.
  • Put on his favourite lingerie and tease him with Your beauty.
  • Make him wear a chastity belt or cock cage.
  • Make him screw himself with a dildo.
  • Scratch him with Your finger nails.Tickle him. Pinch his nipples.
  • Sit on his chest and find out what he would do to be allowed to kiss Your nipple. Let him almost kiss it but pull away, make him beg.
  • Take a break, put some worn panties over his face and leave the room for a while and let him think about what else You might do.
  • Squat above his face, make him reach with his tongue to taste the crotch of Your panties…get more promises
  • Blindfold him and make him lick You to several orgasms. Take a break, cum back and do it all again.
  • Rub his face against Your pussy or sit on his face but gag him with Your panties or a gag so that he can’t lick You.
  • Tie his balls off to something behind him so he has to tug on them to smell Your panties or kiss Your ass…stay just out of reach.
  • Masturbate in front of him. Use a dildo or a vibrator.
  • Put the base of the dildo in his mouth and make him satisfy You with it. Do it so his nose presses between Your ass cheeks. He’ll be Your little brown noser and love it.
  • Make him lick the dildo clean.
  • Tie him down to the bed and tie his hands to his penis but do not give him permission to cum with harsh punishments for disobedience.
  • Put Your worn panties over his head so he can smell your odor.
  • Make him wear a cock ring (a watch strap or cat collar works well)
  • Have him pamper You, have him:give You a foot/back/full body massage




    give You a pedicure/manicure,

    paint Your finger/toe nails.

    bathe You/shave your legs.

    cook and serve You a nice dinner.


Punishment Ideas

2nd of the lists, again forgive grammar please.

  • Miss ties a rope round subs balls and i must kneel near by or follow her. Tugs as she pleases
  • Spank or whip him. (wooden spoon, hair brush, belt, ruler, ping pong paddle, riding crop, switch, cat-o-nine tails…)
  • Tie sub in an uncomfortable position.
  • Tie sub ankles together and attach his balls to them.
  • Hog tied. (wrists and ankles tied together)
  • Hanging from the ceiling by subs wrists.
  • In a chair with subs knees pulled up to his shoulders – good for spanking and everything is exposed and vulnerable.
  • Tie up subs balls and cock with a long leather thong, clothes line, or boot lace. Use a long piece and wrap the base and balls repeatedly. Do each ball separately. Tie tight loops around his shaft from base to tip then tie the end back between his legs and up to a belt or to his handcuffs.
  • Attach clothes pins or nipple clips to subs nipples, balls, cock or wherever.
  • Enema.
  • Double up on subs domestic chores, make them more difficult: tie his hands; make him use a toothbrush to clean the toilet, tie his ankles with a short chain and make him wear extra high heels.
  • Deny sub orgasms for a long period of time.
  • Put Ben-gay or icy-hot on subs penis and nipples.
  • Drip candle wax on sub, chest, balls, cock, ass.
  • If you have a remote vibrator or plug, coat that with Icy Hot and stick that in subs ass, use the wireless remote to turn it on and off. Put him in a tight thong under his clothes and go with him to dinner and then to cinema.
  • Have sub wear a chastity device and go to his local gym for training and have him take a shower afterwards. Make sure other people are in shower.
  • Sub must sit down to pee at all toilets. No more splashing! You will post a sign above the toilets in our house that reads: “Males are expected to sit down to keep from splashing on the seat.”
  • Sub will be smooth and hair free below the neck.
  • Sub will submit to spankings and other punishments whenever Miss says you have earned them.
  • Do not wear underwear and socks
  • Freeze a lot of your cum before chastity. Eat daily during sentence
  • Wear butt plug for an entire day
  • Increase butt plug size your ass can handle by 2 sizes
  • Go to a gym with communal showers and take a shower with chastity cage on when other men are present
  • Take 20 naked pictures wearing the chastity cage in different exposing positions and send it to Miss
  • Take a picture kneeling and naked wearing the chastity cage in a locker room/changing room in a gym
  • Sub is not entitled to have your neutered status kept secret. If she wants to show off your condition, she can. Her friends will probably find it amusing too.
  • Miss reserve the right to tell your close friends about your arrangement and his device.

Humiliation Ideas

This is the first of three blog posts which I plan to expand over time, you’ll see the theme. Its something I’ve long tried to get a collated list of things to suggest etc. mixing it up with various bits I’m ever very turned on by or excited or scared. Kind of a kinky bucketlist if you will.

  • Dress in full women’s clothing for all activities
  • Have all male underwear taken and locked in a box. Sub must wear female underwear of Miss’ choice, Miss’ could even make him wear your underwear from the day before.
  • Humiliate sub in public…take him shopping for panties/lingerie and make him ask size questions
  • Make sub eat his own cum
  • Make sub do exercises (jumping jacks, leg spreads, squats, aerobics, yoga…) naked, plugged
  • Make your sub orgasm and shoot his cum onto your strap on.  Spread it around, use it as lube, and fuck his ass hard
  • Make your sub orgasm and shoot his cum onto Miss’ strap on.  Spread it around, and then make sub deep throat it, and suck and lick it all up until the strap on is clean
  • Make your sub cum into an ice cube tray several times, until he has enough to make a cum cube.  When he is disobedient, make him suck on the cum cube until it is gone
  • Make a home date day, and dress your sub up in makeup, stockings, and heels, and make him your maid for the day
  • Get a suction cup dildo and mount on hard floor, bend sub over and fuck him in the ass while you push his head up and down on the cock.  Make him your cock whore
  • Face fuck sub with your strap on, by holding on to his ears, and plowing into him with force so that you are causing him to gag
  • Invite a girlfriend over for a night of torment to show your friend how you train your sub
  • Make sub wear Your panties or lingerie, dress him up as a little girl or a French maid.
  • Make subdo housework naked or dressed in women’s clothes, maybe with sub being plugged or with nipple clamps. A bell around your cock and balls.
  • Make sub hand wash Your panties and lingerie.
  • Make sub polish Your shoes with his tongue.
  • Make sub wear a collar and lead him around with a leash, like a dog.
  • Make sub walk around gym locker room nude
  • Attach a leash to subs balls or cock ring, and lead him around with that. Tie it off in front of the sink while he does the dishes.
  • Make your sub cum onto your asshole, and then lick it all up
  • Ride sub around as Your pony boy…spurs? a riding crop?
  • Dress sub up like the slut that he is, wear a strap-on dildo and make him beg to suck it. fuck him. (don’t forget the fuck-me red lipstick!)
  • Make sub wear Your panties or lingerie under his regular clothes when he goes out or goes to work so that he will think of his Mistress constantly.
  • Body writing is always a fun way to humiliate sub, pick 10 degrading words/phrases and them wherever you wish on his body in pen or lipstick.
  • Make sub masturbate for You, make him beg for permission to cum, don’t let him, punish him if he does.
  • Make him earn his rewards; for example:Allow him to kiss Your ass after the dishes are done.

    1 minute of pleasure for him for 10 minutes of Yours. 5 minutes of pleasure for him after he makes You cum 5 times. Spank him 10 times for each minute it takes him to make You cum.


    If You think he’s earned an orgasm, make him cum on Your feet or Your ass and then make him lick You clean.

  • Order sub to bring himself to the edge of orgasm and stay there until You give him permission. When You give the command he must cum within 5 seconds or he will be punished and/or not allowed to cum at all. (keep him that way for 30 minutes, an hour…or as long as You want)
  • If subs really horny and bothering You, You may want to curb his interest by ordering him to jerk off 5 or 6 times in a row. Use it as skin conditioner… 3 times on each foot, have him spread it around and lick them clean after each time.
  • Always make sub lick You clean after sex.
  • When You go out, order him to tie himself up, be naked or dressed up as a girl and be kneeling at the door for when You arrive.
  • Lock a padlock on his balls.
  • Give sub a golden shower.
  • Make sub think of a new way for You to humiliate him. Punish him if You don’t think it’s good enough. Make him post it to the net (and send it to me to add to the list)
  • Have sub lick You clean after you pee. 



So little old me had a plan

Whilst pondering & browsing the usual fetlife, Tumblr etc. etc. I had a thought. I’ve not posted to my blog in a very long time, infact I’ve actually removed and moved it since I last updated it. So to motivate myself to blog more, get my thoughts out more and generally be open with the world of the anonymous I figured I’d start paying for my blog.

Now the thing with this plan is it doesn’t give me any bonus thoughts or ideas to put on here, so anyone who wants to ask anything about things we’ve done etc. I’m happy to answer, any subject you’d like me to write about just give me a shout and I’ll give it a try if I think its within my sphere.

I’ve left my “About” section intentionally brief, hoping it gets people interested enough to read through my other posts. So for more information about me then I suppose. I’m a fairly young guy, with a mild addiction to nice food, a heavy addiction to coffee who happens to play a lot of video games. Kink me is a guy who loves to wear pretty things (panties, stockings and other womens underwear), yet  to explore wearing other bits but do have a curiosity to try. I’ve long wanted to be kept in chastity but due to anatomical issues its very difficult to find a cage suitable at a reasonable price for a try before investing a lot of money. I love anything playing with my ass (tongues, fingers, toys). I have more toys than we’ve actually been able to use to date (we’ve been together a while too!) theres a lot I’m curious about but not had the chance to try.

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