I was struggling for a new blog post idea, we’re really happy atm and have been doing bits and pieces of kink but nothing really to report majorly. So rather than just go silent all over again I thought I’d find a “kinky questionnaire” kinda thing and let everyone find out a little more about me.
1. What fetishes do you have? In the strickest terms I wouldn’t say I have any “fetishes”, I can still get off in a vanilla sense. However I do love to be teased, denied, humiliated, dressed up and controlled, I’m basically 0 – 60 in a second flat if you get those things involved.
2. What is your favorite fetish? I think I’d have to say my favourite of the above is being controlled easily, to be told what to do and punished for not complying or doing the job to Miss’ required level.
3. Have you indulged in all your fetishes? All those listed above yes to varying degrees.
4. What fetishes are you yet to experience? I think theres a lot I’ve not that I’m definitely interested and others that I’m not necessarily however would oblige if Miss’ wanted. Of things I’m interested in I think I would like more punishment and humiliation. They’re both things that really do get me going and drop me into sub space in seconds.
5. Are there any fetishes you don’t have yet, but may be interested in? Cum play is something that does really interest me. Making me eat my own, having it on my face, making me fuck a dildo I’ve cum on, all intrigue me a lot.
6. Have you experienced BDSM? Do you practice it? Yes and yes
7. Are you a top/dominant a bottom/submissive or a switch? Definitely submissive 100%, I can in some instances have a dominant side but its not something that comes completely naturally.
8. What is it about BDSM that you like? I love the loss of control to my actions, having someone have power over me to use me for their needs, amusement, wants or just generally because they want to use me.
9. Have you experienced being tied up or restrained? Yes, and I adore it. Depending on the position it can be tricky to stay that way but constant communication is key.
10. Do you enjoy long, extended teasing/edging sessions? Yes we’ve recently been doing a lot more in terms of chastity (and expect pictures in a future post) and Miss definitely has a good handle on teasing *blush*
12. What is the longest you’ve been teased/edged? After a term in chastity Miss had me edge whilst she played with herself with the wand. After a lot of edges (think it was about 11), Miss allowed me to fuck her during which I believe she would have allowed me to cum had I been able (I wasn’t!).
13. Do you enjoy tease and denial? Very very much
14. Do you like to be denied? I love when Miss denies me, although at times it can be frustrating it keeps me in a state of wanting to please her in any way.
15. Do you have a panty fetish? Much much much so, I have been wearing panties 24/7 for some time now, and love thongs and gstrings most.
16. Have you ever purchased panties from a woman online? Never
17. Have you ever used panties to masturbate? (Stuffing/Wrapping/Etc.) No although I do sometimes wish Miss would gag me with her wet panties, or place them over my face.
18. Do you have a hosiery fetish? I do enjoy wearing stockings
19. Do you like pain? Wouldn’t say like, however when given punishment by Miss it does send me to sub space as the show of control is more than enough.
20. Do you like spanking/being spanked? Yes, I do sometimes request a spanking but it is something I wish Miss would administer more at her whim.
21. What do you prefer to use to spank? (Paddles/Hands/Whips/Etc) Paddles
22. Do you like to hit or be hit? How hard? To be hit, although I do also spank Miss sometimes (she does enjoy it too). As hard as Miss wishes.
23. Do you enjoy choking or being choked? How hard? Choked and enough to release the endorphins.
24. Do you like to bite or be bit? Both
25. Do you like to slap or be slapped? Something I’ve not experienced but would be interested in trying.
26. Do you like pulling or having your hair pulled? Pulling sometimes, I have a very sensitive scalp so don’t enjoy having it pulled.
27. What is your safe-word? Lights system is something Miss would understand. (Red, Orange, Green)
28. Have you ever done a cum-walk? (Walking in public with cum on your face/clothes/etc) I have not.
29. Would you do a cum-walk? Yes
30. Are you an exhibitionist? A little
31. What was your best exhibitionism experience? I’ve not done anything much beyond posting online, although I have previously been made to walk down a street with my trousers around my ankles.
32. Are you a cuckold? No
33. Are you a cuckqueen? No
34. Are you a bull? No
35. Would you like to watch your partner have sex with another person? No its a hard limit for me, not saying its not a fantasy but I know its not something I’d ever want to take out of the fantasy.
36. Would you like to have your partner watch you with another person? See above
37. Have you ever been cuckolded? Been cheated on plenty of times by previous partners, but doesn’t really count.
38. What is it about cuckolding that you like? Again the fantasy of it
39. Do you like to be humiliated? Yes!
40. Do you like to humiliate your partner? Only so far as dirty talk, although would do more if it were something Miss wanted to try.
41. Do you like to be humiliated while cuckolding or do you prefer a friendly environment. N/A
42. Do you like to be forced into crossdressing? Yes!
43. Have you ever fisted? No, although it is something I would try with training.
44. Are you a swinger? No
45. Have you ever been to a swingers club (with a partner)? No.
46. Would you ever go to a swingers club (with a partner)? No.
47. Would you ever participate in an orgy? (4 or more people) No.
48. Would you ever participate in a gang bang? (4 or more people) No.
49. Have you ever pegged/been pegged? Been and given, and LOVE IT!
50. Do you enjoy large strap on dildos or smaller? Working up to larger
51. Do you enjoy sucking or having your strap on sucked? Yes! Sucking on it for Miss is hot, and her sucking it whilst talking dirty (“Don’t you wish it was your cock I was sucking”)
52. Do you like incest? No
53. Have you ever experienced incest? No
54. Do you like face-sitting/smothering? Love it, when Miss is on my face I’m in such a happy place I can’t even put it into words.
55.Do you like weapon play? Never tried but again would
56. Do you like rape play? Yes
57. Have you experienced rape play? Only giving previously but am curious about recieving.
58. Do you like to be dominated? Like nothing else, every other kinky thing I enjoy stems from this one thing.
59. Have you ever been dominated online? No
60. Do you enjoy pet-play? Never really tried or shown much interest in it.
61. Do you like daddy dom/little play? Age play isn’t something I’ve had any interest in.
62. Do you like to be worshiped? Sometimes?
63. Do you like to worship? YES ALWAYS!
64. Do you like to be spit on or spit on your partner? Not something I’ve tried but would really like too, I think the humiliation of it would be hot.
65. Do you like to keep the slave play in the bedroom or carry it over to real life? I like to carry it over.
66. Have you ever been suspended while having sex? I have not but would like to try it. The sense of not being able to control my position and have it in Miss hands does turn me on.
67. Do you like to be told what to do? Yes, I love it when Miss tells me to do something. Its not the same as asking at all, but when she says “Do X now” it immediately gets my blood pumping to all the right places.
68. Do you enjoy giving/receiving JOIs? (Jerk Off Instructions) Not something we’ve practiced but I imagine I would.
68. Have you ever given or received a foot job? I have fucked feet before which was humiliating (NEVER going to happen again though Miss’ feet are far too ticklish *GRIN*)
69. Would you participate in a bukkake? We don’t play with others.
70. Do you enjoy brat play? Sometimes being a bit of a brat can be fun *giggle*
71. What is the strangest way anyone has made you cum? Until recently I’d have said the feet fucking, however last week Miss made me cum from anal (double dildo was fun!)
72. What is the strangest way you’ve made anyone cum? Sucking Miss’ nipples *CHESIRE CAT GRIN*
If theres anything you’d like me to answer in more depth or any questions that come to your mind don’t hesitate to comment or message me 🙂
After last night’s horrible time, and my foul mood. Miss thought it might be an idea to do something different, she wasn’t in the mood to be fucked with the strapon. So she played with the wand, whilst I was to edge and count out each and every edge. We did this for 20-30 minutes, with Miss doing an amazing job of holding back her own orgasm. I myself managed to edge 14 times, with the first 4-5 being very quick. The edges after that first lot got progressively longer to reach, I’d actually got a bruise and some sore tissue due to the erections in the cage so it actually got sore to edge after the tenth. After the 14th Miss told me to fuck her, cock and all. Obviously I quickly got ontop of her, she was still holding the wand in her clit and with Her cock fucking her She came a couple of times, I’d asked if I could cum myself which she answered yes too. This time though after the 14 edges, I found myself unable to reach the edge, nevermind actually cum. I’m glad that Miss had fun (and I did too), but damn one day cumming and missing out on an amazing blowjob, only to be followed by being allowed to cum and not be able.
As always question, comments etc are always welcome.
Yesterday evening after work, having decided earlier in the day that She would like another fucking with the strapon, and that I would be allowed a blowjob as a reward if I was able to not spurt during fucking her with the strapon. We warmed up with me licking and fingering Miss as well as her using the wand on her clit. I’d already caged Miss’ cock and put on the strapon harness, with the big thick 8″ cock. After she felt ready Miss told me to fuck her, despite being caged I still had a very messy ruined orgasm.
Now came the problem, not at all of any action of Miss. I’d been really looking forward to being in Miss mouth, to say she’s talented would be an understatement. I’ve never cum in her mouth even during the time whilst we were relatively vanilla (due to her personal dislike of cum due to previous relationships), but she is more than capable of getting me insanely worked up and close. So you can imagine how I felt about myself, I’d just managed to blow an amazing opportunity to have a lot pleasure all due to being incapable of stopping myself spurting. Miss wasn’t disappointed, or let down etc. but it put me in a very off mood for the rest of the evening. At myself but I can understand it wasn’t fun to be around me in that mood. I loved how much Miss enjoyed me fucking her, and the resulting orgasms. I really do, I just really need to work on being able to get over my own failure to control myself. For a long time it’s been something I’ve despised about myself (hated is far too mild a word for it). I don’t lack in size, I’m above average and I know what to do with it but I’m incapable of controlling when I spurt, whether it’s to full orgasm or ruined. It’s beyond a joke how quickly I need to stop in a stop start technique, I’ve tried cialis and over the counter sex shop pills, I’ve tried prescribed medical numbing cream.
Miss is going to assist me in edging sessions (blog post to follow after today’s experience). Anyway that’s a enough for now I think, if anyone wants to ask anything or has any suggestions please comment or contact me.
So we’ve been rather distracted with everything and not been playing much, life in the way and all that.
This weekend we had a night at a hotel, some fun times during the day and a hell of a lot of fun in the evening, all resulting in Miss seeming to have her mojo back.
Saturday we spent a good few hours going around the Manchester MCM, which was a lot of fun. Both of us enjoying seeing people’s immense efforts at their cosplays, meeting a ton of awesome artists as well as buying a ton of art for what shall nicely be known as our ‘Wall of weird’ and generally having a fun time. In the evening the bag of toys came out, Miss had packed so I wasn’t aware of what had been brought at all. First things first was a nice shower together in the large double shower of our room, in this Miss teased me and offered me the chance to cum or wait till later, I chose to abstain then allowed to shave Miss’ legs. After this I was told to go to put the cage on, and whilst doing that Miss had placed a suction cup dildo on the outside of the shower which she told me to start sucking whilst she finished her shower. Whilst blowing the cock she teased me by playing with herself, rubbing her tits and teasing her ass, all whilst I had a perfect view of her sexy self with a cock in my mouth.
We then went to bed where I was allowed to worship her body, much licking ass and pussy, fingering both holes and general amazing shenanigans. I was then told to put on the strapon she’d brought and fuck her. The strapon is bigger than me by a fair margin and it was a turn on as well as a bit humiliating to feel her grinding back into it whilst I fucked her with it, I did leak whilst fucking her. Miss then decided to play with me, eating my ass which I ALWAYS love but she really went at it, she was aggressively doing it and it couldn’t have been hotter. Then there was plugging and a attempt at fucking with the strapon (advise on good strapons more than welcome! We have a doc Johnson with a couple of dildos but the straps aren’t great) it felt amazing backing onto it but my ass wasn’t ready for her fucking me with it.
We did other things and chilled a bit but overall I couldn’t have asked for a more fun night.
Since we’ve got back Miss has come up with a new rule that when she gets home I must present her with lube, plug, panties (if ones being worn aren’t to her liking) and bend over.
This evening was the first night of this, having been plugged we also went to the gym for an hour with me plugged and panties which felt odd but in a really good way. This evening Miss has so far orgasmed twice once watching some porn I picked out for her masterbating whilst I wasn’t in the room but also knowing she was, and another after getting back from the gym with the vibrator and my face between her ass cheeks. I think life is most definitely good.
So we recieved our first cage this week, I’ve had others in the past but nothing quiet like this one. Its a much smaller cage than I’ve had previously and the ring seems to be a comfortable size.
Other than one issue (it litterally fell off completely, which since I’ve tested and neither of us can figure out how my ball came out!). I do still have trouble with my smaller ball escaping but its tiny comparatively and can be understood. But the device itself is comfortable, I’ve slept in it each night since we got it and not had any problems. Morning wood has been a touch sore but not unbearable and Miss has applied the vibrator to the cage which had the same effect, but overall I’m happy with it. Planning to order a new ring a size down to prevent the fall out, and possibly a urethral tube (as I believe given my previous piercing (apadravya) it’ll help keep everything a bit more hygenic and therefore better for longer wear. I am really happy that Miss has taken to this and she does seem happy with it.
Began the actual making of the spreader bars this weekend and the progress has been quiet quick.
We bought the following items to make them:-
- 1 Single length of wood cut into sections at the hardware store
- A work bench
- Mitre guide
- Hand saw
- Cuffs (ankle & wrist)
I first of all had to straighten the cuts in the wood, they weren’t as straight as I’d have liked so with the mitre guide I recut knocking a little bit off each pole. Then sanding down the edges to smooth them a little so that if a foot/wrist gets knicked by the pole its not going to hurt too much.
Each pole is going to be sanded fully before painting but have already drilled the guide holes for the eyelets, and had a bit of a test run to make sure the size is ok.
More progress to come but attaching the pictures of the work so far.
Sorry for the extremely long time to update, but the spreader bars have I promise been completed for quiet some time. I’ve not got any pictures of them in use as such (although I must say they are very fun when on my knees with Miss fucking my ass).
As you can tell I’ve painted the rods to give them a nice metallic sheen, and to completely contrast restraints. I think they’ve turned out pretty well and really can’t wait for them to be used more.
So yesterday I had a rather dull morning, but I had woken up with an idea in my head that wouldn’t shift. I practically begged Miss to spank my ass till it was red. All this whilst she was at work for the day, I was working from home and had to go to a dental appointment and then a rather boring meeting. Miss made a stipulation that I could have 5 spanks for every task I completed on OurHome, now I hadn’t slept the evening before so I had already completed a good few tasks so was already in for a session of spanking.
But I went to work tidying and doing little bits, after a few I was more doing them because they needed doing than the spanking I would recieve so I had actually done over 20 by the time that Miss got home. Miss had asked me to put on something skimpy and pink, also to have the paddle prepared on the bed for when she got home. All done with gusto and excitement, I really was looking forward to my bottom being red. I put on some stockings, a gstring with a lacey front and pink fabric as well as the high heels I purchased months ago.
When Miss got back she was surprised by the shoes (she thought it was weird how tall I was), although later she said “She didn’t hate the shoes” (Open to a comment Miss on whether you don’t hate or do like?). I’d got out 2 paddles, a cane & an over the door restraint Miss had purchased a little while ago. She decided on the paddle she wanted to use, the restraint to hold me still and also a blindfold.
The Results you might say was definitely to my liking
Today I’ve been able to feel the slight bruises (a rather pleasant reminder).
I found an app for android or iPhone called OurHome its a little kiddy in design but allows for setup of various different tasks and also a list of rewards. Each task completed gives a predefined number of points which can be spent on rewards. Miss spent some time yesterday tuning the tasks and adding some rewards to it and I’ve been ticking off what I’ve done thus far.
At the bottom I’ve include a couple of screenshots of how it tracks things. You’re able to setup recurring tasks, tasks that can be completed a few times and the like. We’ve only just started using it so yet to really do much with it but I’ll keep you posted. If you want something that’s easy to track after a bit of setup it seems quiet good though.
Its long been something I’ve been extremely interested in, something you’d almost say I’ve long desired. See I have a little issue, I tend to spurt a little too quickly from penetration. Its a problem that seems to come and go but it is a problem and something I rather dislike about myself. With being into femdom and wishing to hand over control to my Miss, it is something I’ve brought up and we’ve talked about. She is curious and has offered to measure me for a device.
Hoping to try this soon and will update this post over time with a bit more but wanted to get a few words down about the subject and my interest in it.
- sub will always dress to please Miss, wether naked or in clothes that sub believes would please Miss. If Miss wishes for sub to change sub will do so without complaint.
- When undressing, sub is to fold the clothes and place them out of the way.
- sub will wear and gratefully accept any toys Miss chooses to insert or adorn him with while serving or in any other circumstance.
- sub may request an opportunity to serve Miss in the following way: “Would it please you to have your sub serve you?”
- sub will always thank Miss for an opportunity to serve whether it was doing chores or being flogged.
- sub will serve Miss with food and drinks as requested, kneeling as the food or drinks are presented. In the presence of others, sub will still serve Miss, but does not have to do so on his knees unless expressly commanded by Miss.
- sub will remain attentive to make sure that Miss never has to ask for additional food or drink, whether in private or in the presence of others. A good sub is always ready before the command is issued.
- sub must use high protocol when playing the sub role. This means that sub will not use first person language when referring to him or herself, but shall always refer to the sub with the following references:sub must use high protocol when playing the sub role. This means that sub will not use first person language when referring to him or herself, but shall always refer to the sub with the following references:
- Miss’s pet
- cum slut
- dirty little whore
- naughty girl
- the unworthy one
- bad/good dog
- sub will tend to Miss’s bath needs further by shaving her legs and pussy when needed. sub will be very careful in this and go slowly as to avoid injury to Miss. sub will lick and kiss every part of Miss that he has shaven after he is done as a sign of gratitude for Misss bestowing the honor on sub. Once sub has completed Misss bathing, sub will dry Miss fully, then apply lotion to Misss entire body. sub will then ask Miss for permission to assist Miss in getting dressed/ready, and respond appropriately.
- Punishment and or discipline take precedence over any other command.
- sub must show gratitude for punishment and or discipline.
- sub must take correction gracefully and maintain a grateful presence around the house after the fact.
- sub must ALWAYS confess to disobedience and take responsibility even when Miss is not present and beg for punishment and or discipline. If Miss is unavailable for immediate punishment, sub must come up with a suitable mini-punishment for himself, carry it out, report it to Miss and await Misss final judgment and punishment.
- sub must be available for sexual service whenever Miss requires.
- sub must always be ready for any form of sexual service, which would mean that his body must be prepared in order to make it easy for Miss to use him.
- sub will be clean and pleasant to all the senses at all times.
- sub will not be allowed to have an orgasm without permission.
- sub is not allowed to touch his owner’s property without permission in any sexual way.
- sub should never question Miss’s commands, and simply must immediately upon receiving them proceed to carry out his task gratefully.
- sub surrenders control to his Miss. He surrenders control of his body, how he spends his time, how he dresses, what he eats, where he sleeps. In all aspects, the Miss controls the sub.
- sub’s purpose is to please his Miss, more than anything else She owns, he must learn to control his response to sexual stimulation for the greater enjoyment of his Miss. his orgasm is the only that the sub has left to control for himself. Failure to control his orgasm is disobedience. Disobedience requires punishment.
- If Miss prefers simply to torment the sub and deny him release, then the sub must control himself to provide Her this pleasure. sub must dedicate himself to abstinence and thank his Miss humbly for removing the pleasure of ejaculation, thus allowing him to dedicate his lost pleasure to Her.
- If Miss demands satisfaction through sexual intercourse, sub must be able to control effectively his own orgasm so that it is timed to the pleasure of his Miss. His purpose is not to please himself but to please Her.
- sub should be as clean-shaven as the Miss requires: from the top of his head to his toes, body hair should be present only if the Miss allows it.
- sub will allow himself to be pierced or tattooed as required by his Miss, if safely and professionally done.
- sub will submit to enemas, or self-administer enemas, on demand by the Miss.
- When urinating, sub will always sit on the toilet; no exceptions.
- When a meal is over sub must be quick to clear the table and wash the dishes.
- sub will perform all household chores for the Miss, to include:
- sweep and vacuum all floors and carpets
- mop and was all floors
- dust and polish all furniture
- make the beds every day
- wash and fold all clothing and linens
- scrub bathrooms
- clean kitchen
- cook simple meals; assist in all cooking
- wash dishes and put them away
- shop for groceries and put them away
- take out trash and sort recycled items
- run all errands as directed
- sub worships my Miss’s body and Her whole
- sub trust his Miss: Her responsibilities, Her skills, Her hunger and needs, and Her concern for my safety, my emotional, psychological, social, sexual, and physical health.
- When the pussy of Miss’ is put onto my mouth and sub is directed to suck it – sub will do so vigorously as long as sub is required to do so.
- sub will worship Miss’ ass and lick it clean whenever She wants me to. sub shall do so hungrily, being sure to lick between the cheeks for as long as Miss requires. sub may use my hands to spread my Miss’s cheeks apart.
- sub must remove all of my clothing in the way sub have been taught when Miss commands me to do so – regardless of who may be present and despite where it is sub am.
- my greatest felt satisfaction is realized when sub know sub have pleased my Miss
- The opportunity to please my Miss is very important to me and sub will take every chance to seek out such opportunities to do so to the best of my abilities and in accordance to how sub has been taught or allowed to do so.
- my Miss is my greatest treasure.
- The safeword given to me by my Miss can be spoken at any time-even when sub have been told to be silent. If sub is not able to verbalize it – sub trusts my Miss will show me how sub can express it. Safewords are for my protection as well as Hers. sub must be careful not to take more than sub can handle, as She will need to know when to stop from getting carried away with Her own passions – so that sub may be prepared over time to endure more for Her.
- sub shall never think of himself as a weak person for it takes a strong slave to commit to the drive inside me, to serve, to obey and to please Miss. sub too has responsibilities and as natural as they may seem to me it is important that sub use all of my faculties including my creative spirit to submit to my Miss in a unique fashion personal to my relationship with Her. By doing so sub hopes to provide a good example to those males around me who may still be learning so they too are not led astray from their primary focus, that they are as true to their nature as sub strives to continue to be to mine. sub must remember that how well sub behave enlightens and empowers me to become even closer to who sub is – a devoted slave, of good rapport to a Miss who truly understands my needs in relationship to Her own.
- sub may, at times, offer various parts of my body to my Miss in hopes She will take pleasure in using them in whatever ways She wishes. my only hope will be that my offering will please Her. If not, sub wants Her to punish me.
- Miss’ cock must be available for Her to use at all times.
- If required: a plug of Miss’ choice must be inserted deeply into my ass before arriving at my Miss’s house. Failure to do so and sub shall feel the punishment She will give upon my ass as sub keep the cheeks of it pulled apart – for the plug was not intended to provide me pleasure.
- sub hope Miss will choose to use my tongue as Her towel after Her shower so sub may be able to worship Her body.
- Until Miss has chosen it is time for me to wear a more permanent mark of ownership upon my flesh, sub shall proudly wear Her temporary mark of ownership upon me wherever She chooses to place it.
- sub shall gladly make my body available to my Miss to be used as furniture: my body positioned to decorate a room or a garden, a footstool to rest Her weary feet and legs upon, my backside as Her table to eat off of, my palms to be used to hold a plate of Her food, or my hands to hold a book open for Her to read or a lamp for Her to see.
- When sub have been given permission to play with myself sub shall do so in the following manner: working my cock almost to an orgasm and then stopping for a few minutes, then working it again to almost at orgasm and then stopping for a few minutes, and then finally working it again to a full orgasm. Then and only then shall sub enjoy an orgasm on my own. Should sub cum before the third tier – sub will tell my Miss so sub may be punished. sub will play with myself in that manner even in Her presence.