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Long day of work followed by a nice surprise

I spent most of today working on various bits and bobs, which altogether felt rather satisfying. Especially since upon waking up I listened to Miss having her usual morning shower (I evening shower and actually did so caged last night). When Miss came back through to the bedroom I was told to slide down the bed, Miss had decided I could give her a good start to her day with my tongue so of course I licked whilst she mounted my face. Very good way to start a day covered in some of Miss’ juices.

During the day the cage was strained several times whilst I couldn’t help but think of Miss, it also occasionally decides to all the contents to rub a little so some moving around can be required as its not wholly pleasant when it does. After the long work day we went to a local supermarket got food for a decent amount of nights (Miss is making me cook “Dressed in something pretty” this evening). When we got home I put away everything we had gotten then was taken to the bed room and told to stand at the side of the bed, Miss had the wand in hand and I wasn’t sure if it was for her or for me. Turned out Miss wanted to use it on my incarcerated cock.

After a few minutes of intense vibrations of metal, cock and a lot of straining. Miss once again told me to lie down on my back. She mounted my face, underwear still in place with a nice wet patch right at my nose (and can I tell you she always smells just as sweet as she tastes…) after a few moments and her once again putting the wand on the cage, she said I could move them to the side which I immediately did so I could get a taste of her. She ground herself against my tongue while bringing me to orgasm in the cage after which she didn’t take long to reach her own. Good day was had by all xD


Few days in and going strong

Yesterday evening Miss had me use the wand and a dildo on her whilst I stayed locked, it was amazing watching her ass bounce whilst I fucked her with the dildo and held the wand in place. I was so deep in sub space during it I almost stalled when she asked me to talk to her whilst I was doing it. After my momentary pause I proceeded to start telling her how much I’m her toy and she can have me do as she wants. After Miss had cum several times from this we just lay and cuddled for a bit.

Today though my mind has practically permanently been in a kind of muted sub mode, I’ve constantly had my thoughts drifting back to Miss, either from the concert and her rubbing against me. Or to last night, or even just us on the couch together. Making it a little difficult to concentrate on work but not in a bad way at all (made for a much more interesting work day). This evening we’re off out to a friends house, we were originally going to stay in but the friend eventually let us know that tonight was still on, its nothing kinky etc. but should be fun. Of course the final say on whether we went or not was Miss’ though and I’m due to pick her up in an hour or so.



Self locking without thinking

The other day Miss and I were due to go to a gig, prior to leaving for the drive over I locked without first talking to Miss

My intention was to kick start our kinky side and also hand over control to her once more as we’ve not really done anything in an FLR sense in some time. I was hoping to kind of point it out that I was handing control over to her completely. Unfortunately and unintentionally it came across that I was doing it for me and it was about me, so I completely missed the mark. Miss did take it well though and I suppose I’m writing this to kind of explain my intentions as well as how I’ve felt since.

So onto the since, at the gig Miss was stood in front of me and throughout and due to both of our movements I on a number of occasions couldn’t help but close my eyes and enjoy Miss amazing ass rubbing against my now caged cock, genuinely slightly say dreamy each time she rubbed against me. First night I was awoken by morning glory, but thankfully due to a late night drive I got back to sleep, rest of the day I did housework with the ever present reminder of the cage. Today thus far I’ve strained against the cage a few times (mostly thinking of Miss, especially as she’s said we’re 100% having some time for her later) but no real discomfort.

I might add to this post later but as ever please ask any questions you may have in the comments, messages etc.


I’ve been struggling for content

Miss and I have been going through a quiet patch as I hinted to in my previous post, so I’ve not had much news to post about but I’m trying to get better so we can get back onto track.

In an effort to have something to post about I did some googling and found the following:-

figuring I’d have a go doing another post with me answering the questions so here goes, I know its as a “Application to submit” but as its fairly detailed if anyone has anything else they’d like answered from my opinion or mind as always please feel free to ask.

Part One of slave training questionnaire: General overview and Information

A. How may years of experience do you have? 14 years or so

B. How long have you known of your interest in bdsm? 16 years

C. What is your sexual orientation? Bisexual

D. What kind of relationship are you presently able to provide to a Miss? Live in with Miss

E. Main interest? Both psychosexual & mental as well as sensual and physical

F. Are you… (rate each from 1=lowest to 10=highest) if explanation is necessary do so.

Sadistic             4

Masochistic       7

Dominant           3

Submissive        10

Switch                3

G. Your level of interest in bondage:

1. Total helplessness – Yes

2. Light bondage – Yes

H. Pain (what you are, or what you’re looking for)

1. Pain slut – At times

2. Whipping, caning, paddling – Yes


Part two of slave training questionnaire: Detailed questions

All answers are expected to elaborate on the subject matter in question. No one (1) word answers are to be given. All answers shall be a minimum of one full sentence.

1. i seek and require the guidance of a Miss to….?

(What  being a slave is going to do for you?)

Being a slave to Miss will allow me to grow in a way I’ve always desired, being able to provide service to her in any way she wishes is my ultimate goal and being able to eventually move to being able to predict her wishes. Sexually I believe I already have a handle on this but its in other areas of our life I aspire to reach this goal.

2. i seek and require the guidance of a Miss because….?

(Why do you have the need for a Miss?)

Outside of my social and work lives in which I’m a fairly dominant character I need the release of being submissive, I’m a fairly socially anxious person despite appearances and tend to overthink things in these areas of my life. When outside of that the submissive nature I have allows me to escape the pressures I feel in other areas.

3. How important is the fulfillment of these needs to you?

The fulfillment of these actually allows me to not turn in on myself so they can be quite critical to me.

4. i seek to provide my Miss with….?

(psychologically, emotionally, and sexually.)

The emotional and psychological support she needs to succeed in whatever she wants, as well as sexually satisfy her in any way she needs.

5. my concept/definition of ‘submission’ is….?

To be there for the dominant in any way they need, seeking to satisfy them in any way

6. my concept/definition of ‘servitude’ is….?

To be available for the dominant whenever they require

7. my concept/definition of “commitment’ is….?

To be fully focused on the health (physical & emotional) of myself and of Miss so that I’m available as much as is possible

8. my favorite sexual fantasy is….?

To have Miss fully satisfied, physically exhausted and with me having either been left ruined or to have not cum at all. I do have a sissy side and also love humiliation so Miss verbally abusing me during this and me being dressed as a sissy would add to this but the base of her being completely satisfied is my primary fantasy..

9. Describe the following areas that you have endured and how you would like your limits expanded within each situation.

a. Nipple torture – Only really experienced nipple clamps although I did enjoy them

b. Ass play – I love my ass being teased and played with, I do want to explore using bigger toys though with training.

c. Bondage scenes – I have been tied by Miss a number of times and love the power it gives her over me.

d. Whipping scenes – I love to be spanked, I’ve not experienced a whip to date but wouldn’t be against the use of one if it was something Miss wanted.

10. Describe one area not mentioned you have endured and how you would like your limits of such expanded.

Sissy play and dress up is something I’d like to explore more, I don’t currently know how exactly I would react to being fully dressed as a sissy but am curious to try.

11. In what area(s) do you require concentrated training? Wherever Miss feels I need.

12. Are you willing to accept the idea of being trained as the property of your Miss? Yes

13. Describe how you will serve your Miss in her absence. –

Domestic servitude is something I am able to offer, as well as being able to assist in other ways (finding art assignments for her to complete as she is attempting to draw more for instance)

14. The following two questions deal with your current and initial preferences. These two questions may be answered with either a “Yes, Sir!” or a “No, Sir!” as long as you elaborate upon them with a minimum of one full sentence:

Do you prefer your Miss to be:

Rough, tough, and stubborn? Yes, Miss!

Firm, stern, yet considerate? Yes, Miss!

Something else? What? No, Miss!

Do you prefer to:

· be commanded and ordered about? Yes, Miss!

· be given a set rules to obey? No, Miss

· know the reason for some commands/orders? No, Miss!

· have no say in your training and use? No, Miss!

· have input in your training and use? Yes, Miss!

15) Tell me of your sexual energy ?

f) I like sex, however I like it in my relationship, outside of a relationship I can live without it.

16. Comments. (on any area(s) not covered by the questionnaire that you feel are relevant in your case that have not been addressed.)

17. What are your known Hardlimits that you would like to maintain? Scat, animals and illegal activities


This is a detailed part of the slave training questionnaire:  

Prepare a detailed description of your former training.  Start at the beginning and take it Miss by Miss.

In terms of previous training its always been a lot more “sporadic play” than training. 

Describe the type of training you received and types of scenes you had.

In terms of scenes, I’ve experienced some chastity, spanking, bondage and being used as furniture

Explain any problems with the relationships.

All previous relationships as I say the play was sporadic at best (this is an understatement with relationships lasting years and having a hand full of play sessions)

How long you were trained and what the major thing you learned from each.


What you liked and did not like about previous training experiences.

No training as such

Describe how your were rewarded and punished.


In addition describe any experience you have had as a switch.

In relationships early on I was more of a switch being able to easily switch between being submissive and dominant, controlling the partner at the time fully sexually.


Part Three of slave training questionnaire:  Experience Level and Interests

your potential Miss does not necessarily engage in any of the following-described conduct. However, it is essential that you provide scrupulously accurate answers so I can realistically assess your qualifications as well as whether I need to address other issues in your personality besides your desire to serve.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:

For experience, write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity. For willingness, indicate for each item how you feel about DOING that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5 (“?” means you don’t understand what the item is attempting to describe. NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

NO means basically a hard limit and that you have absolutely no desire to do this.

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don’t like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would permit the Miss to do it if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a “soft limit”).

1 means you don’t want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn’t object if it was asked of you.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you and you would like it as often as possible.

Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Miss to know in the margin to the right.

BDSM check LIST 

Abrasion : NO 3

Anal sex (top) : YES 3

Anal sex (bottom) : YES 5

If so, ever without condoms?: Yes

Anal plugs (small) : YES4

Anal plugs (large) : YES 4

Anal plug (public, under clothes): YES 4

Animal roles : NO 2

Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) : NO 2

Asphyxiation : YES 3

Ass licking (giving): YES 5

Ass licking (receiving): YES 5

Bathroom use control : NO

Beating (soft) : YES 3

Beating (hard) : YES 3

Bestiality (k9): NO NO

Bestiality -other: NO NO

Blindfolds : YES 4

Being bitten : YES 4

Ben wa balls or kegel balls: NO 2

if yes how long did you wear?

Breath control : YES 3

Branding : NO 2

Boot worship : NO 3

Bondage (light) : YES 4

Bondage (heavy) : YES 4

Bondage (multi-day) : NO 2

Bondage (public, under clothing) : NO 4

Brown showers (scat) : NO NO

Cages (locked inside of) : NO 4

Caning : NO 3

Catheterization : NO 2

Cattle prod or stun gun (electrical toy) : NO 2

Cells/Closets (locked inside of) : NO 3

Chains : NO NO

Chastity belts : YES 5

Clothespins : YES 4

if you have had them used where?: BALLS, COCK, NIPPLES, LIPS

Cock sucking: YES 3

Do you swallow?: N/A

Collars (worn in private) :NO 4

Collars (worn in public) : NO 3

Cuffs (leather) : NO 3

Cuffs (metal) : NO 2

Diapers (wearing) : NO NO

Denied privacy: NO 4

describe the denial:

Douches as part of play: NO 3

Double Penetration (anal and cunt): N/A

Dildos : YES 5

Eating Cunt: YES 5

Electricity : NO 3

Enemas (for cleansing) : YES 4

Enemas (retention/punishment) : NO 2

Enforced chastity : YES 5

Erotic dance (for audience): NO 2

Erotic dance (private) : NO 3

Examinations (physical) : NO 5

Exercise (forced/required) : NO 2

Exhibitionism : NO 5

Eye contact restrictions : NO NO

Face slapping :NO 5

Fantasy rape : NO 5

Fear (being scared) : NO NO

Fisting (anal) : NO 3

Flame (fire play) play : NO 2

Foot worship : NO 3

Forced masturbation : NO 4

Forced nudity (private) : YES 4

Forced nudity (around others) : NO 3

Forced servitude : NO 5

Full head hoods : NO 2

Gags (cloth) : NO 2

Gags (inflatable) : NO NO

Gags (phallic) : YES 5

Gags (rubber) : NO 2

Gags (tape) : NO 3

Gas masks : NO NO

Given away to another Miss (temp) : NO NO

Servicing another Miss upon command: NO 2

Golden showers : YES 2

Hairbrush spankings : NO 3

Hair pulling : NO NO

Hand jobs (giving) : YES 5

Harnessing (leather and or rope) : YES 3

Homage with tongue (non-sexual) : NO 4

Hoods : NO 2

Hot Creams (Ben-Gay) on genitals: NO 3

Hot oils (on genitals) : NO 3

Hot waxing : NO 4

Housework (doing) : YES 4

Human puppy dog : NO 2

Humiliation : YES 5

Ice cubes : YES 3

If you have experienced, where?: (nips, ass) Nipples, cock

Immobilization : YES 3

If so, how? Tied with rope

Interrogations : NO 2

Lactation training: N/A

Lactation (miking tits): N/A

if you have explain procedure:

Leather clothing : NO 2

Leather restraints : NO 2

Licking (non-sexual) : NO 3

Lingerie (wearing) : YES 5

Manacles & Irons : NO 2

Massage (giving) : YES 5

Massage (receiving) : YES 5

Medical scenes : NO 2

Modeling for erotic photos : YES 5

Photographing  training sessions with your Miss: NO 5

Mouth bits : NO 2

Multi-partners: NO 1

Mummification : NO 2

Needle Play: NO 2

Nipple clamps : YES 5

Nipple rings (piercing): NO 4

Nipple play/”torture” : NO 4

if a type not listed then explain:

Nipple weights : NO 4

Obeying verbal commands such as “kneel”,  “stand”  or “Present.” YES 5

Oral/anal play (rimming): YES 5

Over-the-knee spanking : NO 4

Orgasm denial : YES 5

Orgasm control : YES 5

Outdoor scenes : NO 4

Outdoor sex : YES 4

Pain (severe) : NO 4

Pain (mild) : NO 4

Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): NO 2

Piercing (permanent) : YES 3

Prison scenes : NO 2

Punching: NO 2

if yes to punching, explain

Punishment Scene : YES 5

if yes, describe the scene play – Spanked by Miss

Pussy torture: N/A

describe torture:

Restrictive rules on behavior : NO 2

Rubber/latex clothing : NO 2

Rope body harness : YES 4

Role playing: NO 4

Saran wrapping : NO 2

Sensory deprivation : NO 2

Serving as ashtray : NO 1

Serving as furniture : NO 4

Serving as a maid : NO 4

Serving as toilet (urine) : NO 2

Serving orally (sexual) : YES 5

Serving other Miss’ (supervised) : NO 2

Serving other Miss’ (unsupervised): NO NO

Serving others as sex slave: NO NO

Shaving (body hair) : YES 5

Shaving (head hair) : NO NO

Slave positions training: NO 2

Sleep deprivation : NO NO

Spandex clothing : NO 2

Spanking : YES 5

Speech restrictions (when, what) : NO 1

Spitting : NO 3

Spreader bars : YES 5

Stocks : NO 3

Straight jackets : NO 2

Strapping (full body beating) : NO 3

Strap-on dildo receiving: YES 5

Strap-on dildo giving: YES 5

Suspension (upright) : NO 3

Suspension (inverted) : NO 3

Suspension (horizontal) : NO 3

Supplying new partners for Miss: NO NO

Swallowing semen : YES 4

Swallowing urine: yours?; others? NO 2

Swapping (with one other couple) : NO NO

Tattoos: YES 4

TENS Unit (electrical toy) : NO 3

Tickling : NO 2

Uniforms : NO 2

Verbal humiliation : YES 5

Vibrator on genitals : YES 5

Violet Wand (electrical toy) : NO 4

Voyeurism (watching others) : NO NO

Video (watching others) : YES 4

Video (recordings of you) : YES 5

Waxing (hair removal) : YES 5

Whipping : NO 3

Wooden paddles : YES 5

Wrestling : NO 3


What you think is your best physical feature: My eyes

What you think is your worst physical feature: My tummy

Do you have problems controlling your temper: Occasionally

Do you have any tattoos or piercing? Tattoo on my arm

What has been your most intense scene involving SM/BD? Probably when Miss dressed me up and took pictures, then tied me up and used me.


Part Four of slave training questionnaire:  The slave’s Background


Do you smoke? Yes

Do you drink? Practically never

Do you use drugs? No

Have you been diagnosed with mental problems? No

Do you have any disabilities (visible or invisible)? No

Do you wear contact lenses? No

Do you have any special dietary needs or restrictions? No

Are you allergic to dogs, cats, or other? No

Do you have any sexually transmitted diseases? No

Are you subject to any form of loss of consciences or seizures? No

Do you have panic attacks or phobias? No

Do you now or have you suffered from depression? Occasionally

What was your last illness that resulted in hopistalization and when? Testicular torsion

List you sex toys below and tell me the ones used most often. Dildos (many), anal plugs (many), wand vibrators, strapons, panties, ropes, restraints, dildo gag, gags and spreader bars.


Describe your abilities in domestic service such as cooking, cleaning, General House work.

Cooking savoury and deserts, cleaning, handy work (DIY etc.)


Describe your abilities at

Massage – Reasonable

Dancing – Not great

Computer skills – Expert (its my job)

Bookkeeping – Not great

Financial record keeping – Not great

Other skills:


Current martial status: Soon to be married to Miss

Have you been married before: if yes, very short summary of details: Yes, divorced 2018.

Have you ever been unfaithful to your lover or Miss? No

Is there any reason why you would not be able to commit 100%? None what so ever, Miss is my life

Have you ever intentionally made your sex partner or Miss mad? Never intentionally


Circumstances, frequency and preference:

What is the most you have ever cum in a 24 hour time period? Describe circumstances. 16 times in one day, with Miss

How often do you masturbate and what methods do you use?

Infrequently, if we’re not actively taking part in the BDSM aspect of our relationship and only as Miss wants when active

Do you freely admit when you have done something wrong and are you prepared

for the punishment? Yes

Describe: If I have done something wrong I will openly admit it and accept the punishment Miss wishes.




First update in too long

First update in too long

After a long time not being locked I can feel myself being drawn back to wanting to be caged. See I’ve not been myself for a little bit, I’m a very insular person as a rule and I don’t think I’ve fully got over the post Christmas and New year social exhaustion (yes I know where nearly through January) I’ve tried and tried to get over it but it’s just been difficult.
In much lighter news, Miss and I have been planning our wedding. Nothing big or anything but enough for us to definitely be happy with. I am excited by it and think that she is perfect for me, she just gets me like no one else.

Finding out a bit about me

I was struggling for a new blog post idea, we’re really happy atm and have been doing bits and pieces of kink but nothing really to report majorly. So rather than just go silent all over again I thought I’d find a “kinky questionnaire” kinda thing and let everyone find out a little more about me.

1. What fetishes do you have? In the strickest terms I wouldn’t say I have any “fetishes”, I can still get off in a vanilla sense. However I do love to be teased, denied, humiliated, dressed up and controlled, I’m basically 0 – 60 in a second flat if you get those things involved.

2. What is your favorite fetish?  I think I’d have to say my favourite of the above is being controlled easily, to be told what to do and punished for not complying or doing the job to Miss’ required level.

3. Have you indulged in all your fetishes? All those listed above yes to varying degrees.

4. What fetishes are you yet to experience?  I think theres a lot I’ve not that I’m definitely interested and others that I’m not necessarily however would oblige if Miss’ wanted. Of things I’m interested in I think I would like more punishment and humiliation. They’re both things that really do get me going and drop me into sub space in seconds.

5. Are there any fetishes you don’t have yet, but may be interested in? Cum play is something that does really interest me. Making me eat my own, having it on my face, making me fuck a dildo I’ve cum on, all intrigue me a lot.

6. Have you experienced BDSM? Do you practice it? Yes and yes

7. Are you a top/dominant a bottom/submissive or a switch? Definitely submissive 100%, I can in some instances have a dominant side but its not something that comes completely naturally.

8. What is it about BDSM that you like? I love the loss of control to my actions,  having someone have power over me to use me for their needs, amusement, wants or just generally because they want to use me.

9. Have you experienced being tied up or restrained?  Yes, and I adore it. Depending on the position it can be tricky to stay that way but constant communication is key.

10. Do you enjoy long, extended teasing/edging sessions? Yes we’ve recently been doing a lot more in terms of chastity (and expect pictures in a future post) and Miss definitely has a good handle on teasing *blush*

12. What is the longest you’ve been teased/edged? After a term in chastity Miss had me edge whilst she played with herself with the wand. After a lot of edges (think it was about 11), Miss allowed me to fuck her during which I believe she would have allowed me to cum had I been able (I wasn’t!).

13. Do you enjoy tease and denial? Very very much

14. Do you like to be denied? I love when Miss denies me, although at times it can be frustrating it keeps me in a state of wanting to please her in any way.

15. Do you have a panty fetish? Much much much so, I have been wearing panties 24/7 for some time now, and love thongs and gstrings most.

16. Have you ever purchased panties from a woman online? Never

17. Have you ever used panties to masturbate? (Stuffing/Wrapping/Etc.) No although I do sometimes wish Miss would gag me with her wet panties, or place them over my face.

18. Do you have a hosiery fetish? I do enjoy wearing stockings

19. Do you like pain? Wouldn’t say like, however when given punishment by Miss it does send me to sub space as the show of control is more than enough.

20. Do you like spanking/being spanked? Yes, I do sometimes request a spanking but it is something I wish Miss would administer more at her whim.

21. What do you prefer to use to spank? (Paddles/Hands/Whips/Etc) Paddles

22. Do you like to hit or be hit? How hard? To be hit, although I do also spank Miss sometimes (she does enjoy it too). As hard as Miss wishes.

23. Do you enjoy choking or being choked? How hard? Choked and enough to release the endorphins.

24. Do you like to bite or be bit? Both

25. Do you like to slap or be slapped? Something I’ve not experienced but would be interested in trying.

26. Do you like pulling or having your hair pulled? Pulling sometimes, I have a very sensitive scalp so don’t enjoy having it pulled.

27. What is your safe-word? Lights system is something Miss would understand. (Red, Orange, Green)

28. Have you ever done a cum-walk? (Walking in public with cum on your face/clothes/etc) I have not.

29. Would you do a cum-walk? Yes

30. Are you an exhibitionist? A little

31. What was your best exhibitionism experience? I’ve not done anything much beyond posting online, although I have previously been made to walk down a street with my trousers around my ankles.

32. Are you a cuckold? No

33. Are you a cuckqueen? No

34. Are you a bull? No

35. Would you like to watch your partner have sex with another person? No its a hard limit for me, not saying its not a fantasy but I know its not something I’d ever want to take out of the fantasy.

36. Would you like to have your partner watch you with another person? See above

37. Have you ever been cuckolded? Been cheated on plenty of times by previous partners, but doesn’t really count.

38. What is it about cuckolding that you like? Again the fantasy of it

39. Do you like to be humiliated? Yes!

40. Do you like to humiliate your partner? Only so far as dirty talk, although would do more if it were something Miss wanted to try.

41. Do you like to be humiliated while cuckolding or do you prefer a friendly environment. N/A

42. Do you like to be forced into crossdressing? Yes!

43. Have you ever fisted? No, although it is something I would try with training.

44. Are you a swinger? No

45. Have you ever been to a swingers club (with a partner)? No.

46. Would you ever go to a swingers club (with a partner)? No.

47. Would you ever participate in an orgy? (4 or more people) No.

48. Would you ever participate in a gang bang? (4 or more people) No.

49. Have you ever pegged/been pegged? Been and given, and LOVE IT!

50. Do you enjoy large strap on dildos or smaller? Working up to larger

51. Do you enjoy sucking or having your strap on sucked? Yes! Sucking on it for Miss is hot, and her sucking it whilst talking dirty (“Don’t you wish it was your cock I was sucking”)

52. Do you like incest? No

53. Have you ever experienced incest? No

54. Do you like face-sitting/smothering? Love it, when Miss is on my face I’m in such a happy place I can’t even put it into words.

55.Do you like weapon play? Never tried but again would

56. Do you like rape play? Yes

57. Have you experienced rape play? Only giving previously but am curious about recieving.

58. Do you like to be dominated? Like nothing else, every other kinky thing I enjoy stems from this one thing.

59. Have you ever been dominated online? No

60. Do you enjoy pet-play? Never really tried or shown much interest in it.

61. Do you like daddy dom/little play?  Age play isn’t something I’ve had any interest in.

62. Do you like to be worshiped? Sometimes?

63. Do you like to worship? YES ALWAYS!

64. Do you like to be spit on or spit on your partner? Not something I’ve tried but would really like too, I think the humiliation of it would be hot.

65. Do you like to keep the slave play in the bedroom or carry it over to real life? I like to carry it over.

66. Have you ever been suspended while having sex? I have not but would like to try it. The sense of not being able to control my position and have it in Miss hands does turn me on.

67. Do you like to be told what to do? Yes, I love it when Miss tells me to do something. Its not the same as asking at all, but when she says “Do X now” it immediately gets my blood pumping to all the right places.

68. Do you enjoy giving/receiving JOIs? (Jerk Off Instructions) Not something we’ve practiced but I imagine I would.

68. Have you ever given or received a foot job? I have fucked feet before which was humiliating (NEVER going to happen again though Miss’ feet are far too ticklish *GRIN*)

69. Would you participate in a bukkake? We don’t play with others.

70. Do you enjoy brat play? Sometimes being a bit of a brat can be fun *giggle*

71. What is the strangest way anyone has made you cum? Until recently I’d have said the feet fucking, however last week Miss made me cum from anal (double dildo was fun!)

72. What is the strangest way you’ve made anyone cum? Sucking Miss’ nipples *CHESIRE CAT GRIN*


If theres anything you’d like me to answer in more depth or any questions that come to your mind don’t hesitate to comment or message me 🙂


Long time coming.

So we’ve been rather distracted with everything and not been playing much, life in the way and all that.

This weekend we had a night at a hotel, some fun times during the day and a hell of a lot of fun in the evening, all resulting in Miss seeming to have her mojo back.

Saturday we spent a good few hours going around the Manchester MCM, which was a lot of fun. Both of us enjoying seeing people’s immense efforts at their cosplays, meeting a ton of awesome artists as well as buying a ton of art for what shall nicely be known as our ‘Wall of weird’ and generally having a fun time. In the evening the bag of toys came out, Miss had packed so I wasn’t aware of what had been brought at all. First things first was a nice shower together in the large double shower of our room, in this Miss teased me and offered me the chance to cum or wait till later, I chose to abstain then allowed to shave Miss’ legs. After this I was told to go to put the cage on, and whilst doing that Miss had placed a suction cup dildo on the outside of the shower which she told me to start sucking whilst she finished her shower. Whilst blowing the cock she teased me by playing with herself, rubbing her tits and teasing her ass, all whilst I had a perfect view of her sexy self with a cock in my mouth.

We then went to bed where I was allowed to worship her body, much licking ass and pussy, fingering both holes and general amazing shenanigans. I was then told to put on the strapon she’d brought and fuck her. The strapon is bigger than me by a fair margin and it was a turn on as well as a bit humiliating to feel her grinding back into it whilst I fucked her with it, I did leak whilst fucking her. Miss then decided to play with me, eating my ass which I ALWAYS love but she really went at it, she was aggressively doing it and it couldn’t have been hotter. Then there was plugging and a attempt at fucking with the strapon (advise on good strapons more than welcome! We have a doc Johnson with a couple of dildos but the straps aren’t great) it felt amazing backing onto it but my ass wasn’t ready for her fucking me with it.

We did other things and chilled a bit but overall I couldn’t have asked for a more fun night.

Since we’ve got back Miss has come up with a new rule that when she gets home I must present her with lube, plug, panties (if ones being worn aren’t to her liking) and bend over.

This evening was the first night of this, having been plugged we also went to the gym for an hour with me plugged and panties which felt odd but in a really good way. This evening Miss has so far orgasmed twice once watching some porn I picked out for her masterbating whilst I wasn’t in the room but also knowing she was, and another after getting back from the gym with the vibrator and my face between her ass cheeks. I think life is most definitely good.



So yesterday I had a rather dull morning, but I had woken up with an idea in my head that wouldn’t shift. I practically begged Miss to spank my ass till it was red. All this whilst she was at work for the day, I was working from home and had to go to a dental appointment and then a rather boring meeting. Miss made a stipulation that I could have 5 spanks for every task I completed on OurHome, now I hadn’t slept the evening before so I had already completed a good few tasks so was already in for a session of spanking.

But I went to work tidying and doing little bits, after a few I was more doing them because they needed doing than the spanking I would recieve so I had actually done over 20 by the time that Miss got home. Miss had asked me to put on something skimpy and pink, also to have the paddle prepared on the bed for when she got home. All done with gusto and excitement, I really was looking forward to my bottom being red. I put on some stockings, a gstring with a lacey front and pink fabric as well as the high heels I purchased months ago.

When Miss got back she was surprised by the shoes (she thought it was weird how tall I was), although later she said “She didn’t hate the shoes” (Open to a comment Miss on whether you don’t hate or do like?). I’d got out 2 paddles, a cane & an over the door restraint Miss had purchased a little while ago. She decided on the paddle she wanted to use, the restraint to hold me still and also a blindfold.

The Results you might say was definitely to my liking

Today I’ve been able to feel the slight bruises (a rather pleasant reminder).



Its long been something I’ve been extremely interested in, something you’d almost say I’ve long desired. See I have a little issue, I tend to spurt a little too quickly from penetration. Its a problem that seems to come and go but it is a problem and something I rather dislike about myself. With being into femdom and wishing to hand over control to my Miss, it is something I’ve brought up and we’ve talked about. She is curious and has offered to measure me for a device.

Hoping to try this soon and will update this post over time with a bit more but wanted to get a few words down about the subject and my interest in it.


Possible Femdom Rules

  1. sub will always dress to please Miss, wether naked or in clothes that sub believes would please Miss. If Miss wishes for sub to change sub will do so without complaint.
  2. When undressing, sub is to fold the clothes and place them out of the way.
  3. sub will wear and gratefully accept any toys Miss chooses to insert or adorn him with while serving or in any other circumstance.
  4. sub may request an opportunity to serve Miss in the following way: “Would it please you to have your sub serve you?”
  5. sub will always thank Miss for an opportunity to serve whether it was doing chores or being flogged.
  6. sub will serve Miss with food and drinks as requested, kneeling as the food or drinks are presented. In the presence of others, sub will still serve Miss, but does not have to do so on his knees unless expressly commanded by Miss.
  7. sub will remain attentive to make sure that Miss never has to ask for additional food or drink, whether in private or in the presence of others. A good sub is always ready before the command is issued.
  8. sub must use high protocol when playing the sub role. This means that sub will not use first person language when referring to him or herself, but shall always refer to the sub with the following references:sub must use high protocol when playing the sub role. This means that sub will not use first person language when referring to him or herself, but shall always refer to the sub with the following references:
    • sub
    • Miss’s pet
    • cum slut
    • dirty little whore
    • naughty girl
    • the unworthy one
    • bad/good dog
  9. sub will tend to Miss’s bath needs further by shaving her legs and pussy when needed. sub will be very careful in this and go slowly as to avoid injury to Miss. sub will lick and kiss every part of Miss that he has shaven after he is done as a sign of gratitude for Misss bestowing the honor on sub. Once sub has completed Misss bathing, sub will dry Miss fully, then apply lotion to Misss entire body. sub will then ask Miss for permission to assist Miss in getting dressed/ready, and respond appropriately.
  10. Punishment and or discipline take precedence over any other command.
  11. sub must show gratitude for punishment and or discipline.
  12. sub must take correction gracefully and maintain a grateful presence around the house after the fact.
  13. sub must ALWAYS confess to disobedience and take responsibility even when Miss is not present and beg for punishment and or discipline. If Miss is unavailable for immediate punishment, sub must come up with a suitable mini-punishment for himself, carry it out, report it to Miss and await Misss final judgment and punishment.
  14. sub must be available for sexual service whenever Miss requires.
  15. sub must always be ready for any form of sexual service, which would mean that his body must be prepared in order to make it easy for Miss to use him.
  16. sub will be clean and pleasant to all the senses at all times.
  17. sub will not be allowed to have an orgasm without permission.
  18. sub is not allowed to touch his owner’s property without permission in any sexual way.
  19. sub should never question Miss’s commands, and simply must immediately upon receiving them proceed to carry out his task gratefully.
  20. sub surrenders control to his Miss. He surrenders control of his body, how he spends his time, how he dresses, what he eats, where he sleeps. In all aspects, the Miss controls the sub.
  21. sub’s purpose is to please his Miss, more than anything else She owns, he must learn to control his response to sexual stimulation for the greater enjoyment of his Miss. his orgasm is the only that the sub has left to control for himself. Failure to control his orgasm is disobedience. Disobedience requires punishment.
  22. If Miss prefers simply to torment the sub and deny him release, then the sub must control himself to provide Her this pleasure. sub must dedicate himself to abstinence and thank his Miss humbly for removing the pleasure of ejaculation, thus allowing him to dedicate his lost pleasure to Her.
  23. If Miss demands satisfaction through sexual intercourse, sub must be able to control effectively his own orgasm so that it is timed to the pleasure of his Miss. His purpose is not to please himself but to please Her.
  24. sub should be as clean-shaven as the Miss requires: from the top of his head to his toes, body hair should be present only if the Miss allows it.
  25. sub will allow himself to be pierced or tattooed as required by his Miss, if safely and professionally done.
  26. sub will submit to enemas, or self-administer enemas, on demand by the Miss.
  27. When urinating, sub will always sit on the toilet; no exceptions.
  28. When a meal is over sub must be quick to clear the table and wash the dishes.
  29. sub will perform all household chores for the Miss, to include:
    • sweep and vacuum all floors and carpets
    • mop and was all floors
    • dust and polish all furniture
    • make the beds every day
    • wash and fold all clothing and linens
    • iron
    • scrub bathrooms
    • clean kitchen
    • cook simple meals; assist in all cooking
    • wash dishes and put them away
    • shop for groceries and put them away
    • take out trash and sort recycled items
    • run all errands as directed
  30. sub worships my Miss’s body and Her whole
  31. sub trust his Miss: Her responsibilities, Her skills, Her hunger and needs, and Her concern for my safety, my emotional, psychological, social, sexual, and physical health.
  32. When the pussy of Miss’ is put onto my mouth and sub is directed to suck it – sub will do so vigorously as long as sub is required to do so.
  33. sub will worship Miss’ ass and lick it clean whenever She wants me to. sub shall do so hungrily, being sure to lick between the cheeks for as long as Miss requires. sub may use my hands to spread my Miss’s cheeks apart.
  34. sub must remove all of my clothing in the way sub have been taught when Miss commands me to do so – regardless of who may be present and despite where it is sub am.
  35. my greatest felt satisfaction is realized when sub know sub have pleased my Miss
  36. The opportunity to please my Miss is very important to me and sub will take every chance to seek out such opportunities to do so to the best of my abilities and in accordance to how sub has been taught or allowed to do so.
  37. my Miss is my greatest treasure.
  38. The safeword given to me by my Miss can be spoken at any time-even when sub have been told to be silent. If sub is not able to verbalize it – sub trusts my Miss will show me how sub can express it. Safewords are for my protection as well as Hers. sub must be careful not to take more than sub can handle, as She will need to know when to stop from getting carried away with Her own passions – so that sub may be prepared over time to endure more for Her.
  39. sub shall never think of himself as a weak person for it takes a strong slave to commit to the drive inside me, to serve, to obey and to please Miss. sub too has responsibilities and as natural as they may seem to me it is important that sub use all of my faculties including my creative spirit to submit to my Miss in a unique fashion personal to my relationship with Her. By doing so sub hopes to provide a good example to those males around me who may still be learning so they too are not led astray from their primary focus, that they are as true to their nature as sub strives to continue to be to mine. sub must remember that how well sub behave enlightens and empowers me to become even closer to who sub is – a devoted slave, of good rapport to a Miss who truly understands my needs in relationship to Her own.
  40. sub may, at times, offer various parts of my body to my Miss in hopes She will take pleasure in using them in whatever ways She wishes. my only hope will be that my offering will please Her. If not, sub wants Her to punish me.
  41. Miss’ cock must be available for Her to use at all times.
  42. If required: a plug of Miss’ choice  must be inserted deeply into my ass before arriving at my Miss’s house. Failure to do so and sub shall feel the punishment She will give upon my ass as sub keep the cheeks of it pulled apart – for the plug was not intended to provide me pleasure.
  43. sub hope Miss will choose to use my tongue as Her towel after Her shower so sub may be able to worship Her body.
  44. Until Miss has chosen it is time for me to wear a more permanent mark of ownership upon my flesh, sub shall proudly wear Her temporary mark of ownership upon me wherever She chooses to place it.
  45. sub shall gladly make my body available to my Miss to be used as furniture: my body positioned to decorate a room or a garden, a footstool to rest Her weary feet and legs upon, my backside as Her table to eat off of, my palms to be used to hold a plate of Her food, or my hands to hold a book open for Her to read or a lamp for Her to see.
  46. When sub have been given permission to play with myself sub shall do so in the following manner: working my cock almost to an orgasm and then stopping for a few minutes, then working it again to almost at orgasm and then stopping for a few minutes, and then finally working it again to a full orgasm. Then and only then shall sub enjoy an orgasm on my own. Should sub cum before the third tier – sub will tell my Miss so sub may be punished. sub will play with myself in that manner even in Her presence.


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